I found a great video about 4 types of Narcissism and I wanted to share it with you below.
In it Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist, discusses (in her view) the 4 different types of narcissism and how to spot each.
What I really liked about Dr. Ramani is her ability to breakdown the sometimes confusing topics of narcissism and mental health into relate-able chunks we can understand much more easily.
Now, that being said, there is one think Dr. Ramani says that can be a bit confusing – and I’d like to clarify. I’m not a therapist and could be wrong about this, but here’s my two cents:
At one point she says Narcissism isn’t a personality disorder. Actually it is and in fact I believe I’ve seen other videos where she discusses this. I believe what she means is she distinguishes between folks we call Narcissists (people with narcissistic traits, in her opinion perhaps 10-15% of the population) and folks with full blown Narcissist Personality Disorder (which is closer to about 5% of the population).
My advice is this – don’t get bogged down in trying to figure out whether the Narcissist in your life has a diagnose-able personality disorder or not. It really doesn’t matter. And unless they decide to go to a therapist (unlikely) you’ll never know. What DOES matter is they show Narcissistic traits. If so, you need to arm yourself with the knowledge of what’s going on inside them and how you can handle their toxic behavior when it’s directed to you. For a world-class resource on this exact topic, please check out our ebook here.
Okay, that’s was a super long tangent (lol). Here’s a few notes on what you’ll learn in this short and fun-to-watch 15 minute video:
The 4 Type of Narcissists:
- The Classic Grandiose Narcissist: Lacks empathy. Arrogant. Pompous. Attention seeking. Validation seeking. Self-centered.
- The Malignant Narcissist: This is the Classic Narcissist + a vicious mean streak. They don’t feel guilty when they do something bad. Almost a bit psychopathic. These are the ones that’ll cheat on a partner and not feel bad about it – or even blame their partner for their affair. Bernie Madoff is an example. If you’re on this page there’s a good likelihood the Narcissist in your life is malignant.
- The Covert Narcissist: At around minute 4 Dr. Ramani describes this person as a victim and yet still grandiose. The world never “gets” their greatness. They can be passive aggressive if criticized. Some people say the Covert Narcissist is actually someone who on the outside looks great and charming, but behind closed doors is abusive (in other words a Malignant Narcissist).
- The Communal Narcissist: Someone who does a ton of good works for charities but brags about it, so they aren’t really doing it to help others – they’re doing it for the accolades they’ll receive.
In the last 5 minutes of the video Dr. Ramani talks about how Narcissistic traits help them succeed materially in today’s world and how Narcissists can have friends if they’re so bad.
To Dr. Ramani and Med Circle – thank you so much for taking the time to put out this video. We’re sure it’s helping a ton of folks get a better understanding of the Narcissist in their lives.